Blowjobs: Why You Should Give Them to Your Man Regularly

I asked an AI why women should give their men oral sex more often.

It spat out a lifeless article about the health benefits for both partners.

If I had to pick the most interesting thing from it, it was that research has found women who regularly perform oral sex have a significantly lower risk of developing pelvic inflammatory disease, specifically endometritis. The quick explanation is that when our immune system is exposed to certain antigens (read: the “stuff” on a partner’s penis) in the throat area, it stimulates the production of lymphocytes. These then migrate to your genital tract and protect it from infections.

So—the more you suck, the better your immunity.

From Science to Everyday Reality

But let’s talk more practically and less scientifically.

Men love blowjobs. Or at least, the vast majority of them do.

Women love their men. Or at least, most of them do.

And yet, many of these women who love their men who love blowjobs still have a problem giving them this pleasure.

I ask—or rather, I asked the women around me—why??

The answers varied. “I don’t feel like it,” “I don’t know how,” “I’m embarrassed,” “It makes me gag,” “It’s annoying,” “Why should I have to do it…”

Okay but seriously??? I get it — we all have those days when even brushing our teeth before bed feels like a full-time mining job and we just faceplant into the pillow. And don’t even get me started on hormones. One day you’re feral and would climb anyone who looked at you, even Quasimodo, and the next, your libido has fully left the chat, and all you want is to be left alone with your chocolate and your feelings.

My Opinion? Oral is a Top-Tier Invention

I personally think that a blowjob is the most rewarding sexual act. For one, it’s excellent foreplay. It’s also a way to slow down and catch your breath during passionate sex when you need a little break. And with the right technique, you can bring a not-quite-there penis back to life — no pressure, just skill. It’s an expression of total intimacy between partners, and it also gives the man a sense of dominance, which is like water for the mill of his ego and satisfaction.

Besides, situations like….

• I don’t feel like having sex, but my guy is in the mood. So what? A blowjob. He’s satisfied, and I can then read my book in peace. If I’m lucky, he’ll massage my feet while I’m at it because he feels like he got more than he gave.
• We’re out somewhere, and I want to surprise him. So what? A quickie in the back seat. The atmosphere immediately improves, and my partner is much more inclined to entertain my potential ideas, like “let’s go shopping spontaneously.”
• I didn’t cook? So what? A blowjob, and he’ll happily order a nice dinner. The ratio of an hour of cooking and cleaning vs. a 5-minute blowjob is perfect. Good for me.

You could go on like this forever, but…

You don’t necessarily have to look at it in a purely calculated way and tally up what it will bring you every time you put it in your mouth.

The ideal scenario is when you do it for him gladly, simply because you love him and want him to be happy and satisfied. That enthusiasm is then strongly reflected in the quality of the oral sex. And when a man sees that you’re enjoying it and it pleases you, he gets much more pleasure out of it than when you do it mechanically and without emotion.

The Top Nightmare for Many Women: Initiating Sex

Even today, many women hesitate to take any initiative in the bedroom. This shyness often stems from deeply rooted social stereotypes that have dictated for centuries that the man should be the active conqueror, while the woman should passively receive his advances.

For these women, just the thought of going up to their guy and saying, “Come on, baby, I’m going to blow you,” makes them feel dizzy. And yet, I genuinely believe most of them actually want to do it. Like, if confidence came in a supplement, they’d be taking a double dose every morning.

The internet is full of smart advice on how to overcome shyness, but I can’t responsibly say what actually works. My personal opinion is that you just have to spit it out without any unnecessary dancing around it. The more you fuss over it, the more you’ll stress yourself out and get stuck in a cycle of failure and hysteria.

Think of it this way:

• This is the man you love, you’ve had sex before, you know each other, and therefore you are safe.
• You have absolutely nothing to lose, only to gain (when you tell him this, his mind will first be blown, and you’ll instantly have a million new bonus points).
• It will be a groundbreaking milestone in your self-perception and confidence; you’ll make a hero out of yourself, for yourself.
• Every subsequent time will be much, much easier as you build healthy self-confidence.
• Your sex life will reach a new level.

“I feel like I’m not doing it right, and that’s holding me back.”

Hmmm, yes. This is also a common self-assessment. But it’s easily solvable. Just study up. On our site, lusole.com, one full lesson is dedicated to this topic. One for complete beginners, another for those who want to provide a higher level of oral pleasure and deep throat. They are video lessons guided by moderators, so you have an audio-visual guide, after which you will 100% master it like a pro.

The Final Word

So? Did I convince you? Or at least plant a seed?

Don’t do it for your health, although being healthy is great. Do it for your man. So he feels loved, wanted, and proud of the bedroom beast he has at home. And most importantly—do it for yourself.

I guarantee you that regular oral sex will be beneficial to your life together. And you will feel like a sex goddess. Feel free to write to me about how it went; I will look forward to all the stories. You can do it on our website or go to @monika.joey on Instagram or @monika_joey on X.

Yours, Monika.